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I had a consultation for plastic surgery today! I think I carry a lil social shame from 'caring so much about my appearance.' I'm not sure I actually mind my appearance so much as it feels incredibly advantageous to be more attractive, particularly if I'm public-facing.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

I think I'm treating this as a financial investment - I anticipate higher returns on most things if I'm up a point or two on the 'people want to look at my face' scale.

4:03 AM · Oct 25, 2019

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Send photos. We can give you our opinion. Sometimes when people get plastic surgery, they end up looking worse. Especially the women who get their lips fattened. Nicole Kidman for example looked worse after. And sometimes what they were worrying about, wasn’t worth worrying about

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The stuff I want done is pretty subtle - straightening my crooked nose for instance!

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Jacques (in Berkeley until March 1st)

@JacquesThibs

Oct 25, 2019

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@Aella_Girl

I’ve thought of the same thing. Unfortunately there is a stigma around plastic surgery and it people have a negative reaction when it’s revealed. I think they feel that they’ve been tricked or they just assume that the person is insecure (they see that as bad).

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Right, which is probably why I feel shame about it, which comes as fear of judgement from others. But I like trying to be open about things I feel ashamed about! It's scary and kinda fun.

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Cathy Reisenwitz (51/100 sketches)

@CathyReisenwitz

Oct 25, 2019

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@Aella_Girl

Love that you’re talking about this! I think about this in long but regular intervals, and for exactly the same reason. Luckily I still have lower-cost fixes to make. Fixing the chip in my front tooth, for ex. Got my hair fixed recently.

Cathy Reisenwitz (51/100 sketches)

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Also, i know I can gain status by losing weight, so that’s usually where I put my money and effort. But that doesn’t preclude other fixes. I’m honestly scared tho. Plastic surgery is unpredictable. I’m already pretty attractive. (Sr for partying) What if I end up looking worse?

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Well, if you are dissatisfied you should do what you like. For me you have a unique, interesting and very beautiful face. I'm not sure what I would change and you would do quite well with no changes. What were you thinking of changing?

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Nose job has highest ROI imo

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This is really interesting. I’ve had similar thoughts with other signalling behaviour. Have you made any attempt to quantify the returns you expect?