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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I absolutely agree, and hope I conveyed this in my post. People have different ways of dealing with it and they're all valid - but my point was exactly that. There is no one true horror or good, and cultural expectations are huge in defining how we think about this.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I generally agree. I do also think that moral definitions tend to come from popular culture at the time. This doesn't make them wrong or not useful, but it does make them good candidates for really questioning. I think questioning and updating can often be really useful.
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Aella
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Like, for example, I accepted the cultural narrative that what had happened to me was Very Bad, for years. And when I finally managed to question this narrative deeply enough, I realized that this narrative wasn't working for me, and then found healing.
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Aella
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The trick is that questioning the narrative was really hard to do, cause the pain around what had happened was absolutely massive, and I didn't want to invalidate it. But I want to question the things that are hardest to question. That's where the juice is.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Also can I say thank you for being reasonable? Out of all of the responses I got to this yours is nearly the only one where I feel like you're actually engaging with me and bringing up good points. I really appreciate it. I had wine at the airport and now I'm tearing up
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