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Polyamorous people: Does being polyamorous feel like 'a choice,' like you could switch off being poly if you wanted?

Yes, definitely
10.1%
Uncertain/mixed
8%
No, definitely not
6.6%
Not poly, results please!
75.3%

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Geoffrey Miller

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That's the issue we're voting on.

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It's much closer to an identity for me. It feels utterly beyond my ability to shut off. As soon as I heard what poly was I instantly knew that was me, no question, and I've never once felt any doubt about it since that moment. I can't imagine myself monogamous.

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Polyamory has nothing to do with commitment or lack thereof, to me. I also definitely don't expect one person to satisfy me always, that seems really unrealistic and unhealthy expectation. Nobody is a 'perfect match' for the other.

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The Don Lachlan

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To his point, lots of folks can't imagine themselves monogamous, not because of a desire for multiple concurrent loving relationships but because they're dishonest shitbags. Since I just walked in here, is 'Poly' different from 'non-monogamous'? By what authority?