I'd love more discussion around the invisible privilege of beauty and the hardships around being unattractive, but a big roadblock is that both beautiful and unattractive people mostly don't like self-identifying as those things
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As in: if you're prettier, it feels awkward when an uglier friend points it out. "No no," you say, trying to put you both on the same playing field, to make them feel better. "No honey, my nose is big. Your hair is so lucious though."
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i’ve been thinking about this as well. the difficulty in discussing maps similarly to intelligence.
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As long as you're not delusional there's not much depth to the conversation though. Charming and attractive people are treated stunningly well, hahaha.
What really trips me out is when an objectively "not attractive" person is able to leverage personal charm immensely.
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I would love to have that discussion too, and I think you are accurate about the roadblock.
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I was just thinking about this on my line for coffee this morning (watching men respectfully interacting with a gorgeous employee). 30 Rock had a brilliant episode re: this called “The Bubble”. It’s definitely a thing and definitely a thing people don’t really talk about.
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I would like fewer discussions about privilege, but if people insist on continuing to have them, how about height? Obvious. Indisputably measurable. Clearly impacts treatment received by others.
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