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I personally don't 'get' what women mean when they talk about experiencing sexism and harassment and lack of safety - I don't relate to it or experience it very much, and I know some other women who agree. It's weird the disparity here, that some women report so much trouble...

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Aug 4, 2019

With men and others don't. My theory is that it's 'prey vibe'. Due to whatever reasons probably outside my control, I don't exude 'being prey'. I've been paying more attention lately to women who experience harassment, and I think they do exude prey vibe - the body language is

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Aug 4, 2019

Slightly more negatively responsive, there's more avoidance in stuff like eye contact and positioning of body, there's sort of a self-protective air, like they're aware there is something to protect. I'm not saying harassment is their fault at all, but it's my theory as to why

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Aug 4, 2019

Harassment seems to happen more to them and less to me and some other women I know. I was brought up in a culturally isolated environment and in my formative years rarely experienced sexually predatory men, and I think that gave me some subconscious fearlessness

Aella

@Aella_Girl

That now functions as a signal to men that they'll get less a reaction from me. For example, I generally like being catcalled, and get catcalled less than most women I know.

8:58 AM · Aug 4, 2019

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Lol you're not just forming a "theory" based on anecdotal evidence (which is bad enough), you're forming a theory based on the *absence* of anecdotal evidence. Huge logical fail 😂

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The impression I get from your tweets is that you're interested in having a "gotcha" moment over me, like we're in a war and you want to win. I'm more interested in assigning good faith to each other and trying to collaborate in finding out the truth.

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What is it you like about being catcalled? Does it make you feel more attractive? I've never been one to do that, so I'm genuinely curious what the appeal is?

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It functions as a compliment, like it means I'm looking good that day

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I think some young women might have their predator senses on overdrive because of college classes that drill it into their heads that they’re victims of systemic and personal misogyny. They show little agency in their lives and react simply to external stimuli, like plants.