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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I personally don't 'get' what women mean when they talk about experiencing sexism and harassment and lack of safety - I don't relate to it or experience it very much, and I know some other women who agree. It's weird the disparity here, that some women report so much trouble...
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@Aella_Girl
With men and others don't. My theory is that it's 'prey vibe'. Due to whatever reasons probably outside my control, I don't exude 'being prey'. I've been paying more attention lately to women who experience harassment, and I think they do exude prey vibe - the body language is
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@Aella_Girl
Slightly more negatively responsive, there's more avoidance in stuff like eye contact and positioning of body, there's sort of a self-protective air, like they're aware there is something to protect. I'm not saying harassment is their fault at all, but it's my theory as to why
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Harassment seems to happen more to them and less to me and some other women I know. I was brought up in a culturally isolated environment and in my formative years rarely experienced sexually predatory men, and I think that gave me some subconscious fearlessness
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@Aella_Girl
That now functions as a signal to men that they'll get less a reaction from me. For example, I generally like being catcalled, and get catcalled less than most women I know.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
This feels kind of subtly complicated. I don't know for sure what's going on but I really, really don't think it's pure luck. And I hate the idea that I can't investigate factors about women that affect how often they experience assault because I need to worry about blame.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
So there's a way in which it is their fault, in the way everything that happens to you is your fault. But I view it like, I'm fine with saying tallness is what causes people to hit their heads on doorframes, but I don't think 'tallness is your fault' is useful here.
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