I personally don't 'get' what women mean when they talk about experiencing sexism and harassment and lack of safety - I don't relate to it or experience it very much, and I know some other women who agree. It's weird the disparity here, that some women report so much trouble...
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With men and others don't.
My theory is that it's 'prey vibe'. Due to whatever reasons probably outside my control, I don't exude 'being prey'. I've been paying more attention lately to women who experience harassment, and I think they do exude prey vibe - the body language is
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Slightly more negatively responsive, there's more avoidance in stuff like eye contact and positioning of body, there's sort of a self-protective air, like they're aware there is something to protect.
I'm not saying harassment is their fault at all, but it's my theory as to why
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Harassment seems to happen more to them and less to me and some other women I know.
I was brought up in a culturally isolated environment and in my formative years rarely experienced sexually predatory men, and I think that gave me some subconscious fearlessness
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That now functions as a signal to men that they'll get less a reaction from me. For example, I generally like being catcalled, and get catcalled less than most women I know.
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Do you experience things that you think other women would interpret as harassment?
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Yes, definitely. I don't know how much this happens though. If I'm not processing something as harassment then it doesn't register as a data point.
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Have you read this? (particularly "IV" in there, but all of the sections are somewhat connected)
slatestarcodex.com/2017/10/02/dif
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Is it? Some women often talk about how 'all women' experience this harassment, and this is usually said to back up the point that men don't understand because they're men. Personal experience seems to be used a lot in discussions around this.
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