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I've been tweeting nonbinary-skeptic stuff, and some of the responses make me want to clarify: Weird genderfeelings are valid. These people are not irrational, they're not lying for attention. Regardless of your view, we should take them seriously and respect their preferences.

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I'm not conviced yet. All people have variance in their self-experience of gender, some more, some less; I disagree with "nonbinary" being a special thing requiring... anything special besides regular acceptance of people-as-they-are.

Alexander InvalidValue Cadeyrn

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Which is not really a thing that society is ready to give to anyone at all ever in my experience, so... yes, but that's far from a small thing.

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Small or big, my point (of view) is: it isn't separate. You don't need a special word for it, or make a special LGBTI* niche for it. It's similar to having different moods and still being the same person. And I think from previous tweets

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Apparently to some people it matters enough to want words for it - acceptance would also include accepting that.

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As I've said, I advocate accepting that - if someone wants a word used, we should probably use that word. I *also* advocate being honest and open about what we feel, and I personally feel like I'm lying or pretending when I use people's preferred pronouns. I still do it tho.

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There may be a context where bringing those feelings up is appropriate. There are almost certainly plenty where people would rather not know :D

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I get why you do it, and - I don't do it. Just like I don't lie to comfort people. I want RL to improve, not foster pipe dreams. Similar with words: more made-up terms -> more confusion. More confusion -> less solution.