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If gender is a socially constructed thing, like there's a 'caricature' of a man, then why do we still consider people 'men' who don't correspond at all to the caricature of a man? And then I doubly don't understand how you can change your gender by making a decision about it.

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I feel like I'm way more sympathetic to transness tho. Trans people have measurably different brains, and they generally put in a lot of effort to transition. I'm down with that. I think I meant genderfluidity that isn't trans.

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I think I don't 'believe' trans people who don't try to transition? Like I remember this guy started talking to me on the street - full beard, leather jacket, rugged 60 year old, 100% male presenting, and he said he was a woman. Like, maybe, but it sort of felt meaningless.

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Sure, I understand this. His feelings are real and maybe he has serious dysphoria. But I don't know what the word 'woman' means if you can be a woman just by saying you are, yknow? He (she?) might be a woman to herself, but does not register as woman to me.

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As in: this person gets full 'male privilege'. They also described themselves as a lesbian, which puts me on alert as "older person with testosterone and a penis is into women and I need to sexually guard against them". My relationship to them was the same as if they were male.