I've been tweeting nonbinary-skeptic stuff, and some of the responses make me want to clarify: Weird genderfeelings are valid. These people are not irrational, they're not lying for attention. Regardless of your view, we should take them seriously and respect their preferences.
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Agreed, thanks for the statement. I have a problem wrapping my mind around the feelings because they are completely foreign to my mind and habits of self-image. But I completely respect and honor people's self-definition and preferences.
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You live in a world of billions of people. Billions. I don't think you get billions. You choose to ignore billions, and home in on individuals. Yeah, go on, be special.
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All feelings are valid and deserve to be taken seriously. But it's possible to make invalid statements based on valid feelings, and we shouldn't confuse the two.
It's like being a Christian vs being a creationist. One is valid, the other is just an error in sensemaking.
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I don't see the difference btwn "I feel non-binary" and "I feel Jesus died for our sins & I'll live forever in heaven by affirming such"
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My concern is that gender identification results from & contributes to gender stereotypes. When someone "feels like" a gender, what exactly are they relating to? Are they endorsing the idea that men and women think and feel in completely different ways?
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I'm not conviced yet.
All people have variance in their self-experience of gender, some more, some less; I disagree with "nonbinary" being a special thing requiring... anything special besides regular acceptance of people-as-they-are.
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