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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I'm not into traditional womanness - I don't like cooking or getting married or a submissive lifestyle - but I'm not into progressive womanness either - a lot of progressive/liberal articles talking about the way women deal with the world is totally removed from my experience.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Even socially - I recently had a (liberal/feminist) woman read a list of my questions in front of me and then tell me, not knowing that I wrote them, "there is absolutely no way a woman wrote these. Only a man would ask stuff like this."
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I feel like there's no cached 'womanness' box that I fit into. I feel like an outlier in both liberal and conservative circles. This makes my relationship to my gender feel kinda funny - my 'woman' signalling doesn't meaningfully correlate with things in any group.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I view gender as sort of a predictive thing determined by your social group - and so in the absence of a social group that has correct associations with my woman-presentation, I start to feel like I have no gender at all.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I don't think this is quite right. I don't really care about womanness in general - I'm referring to some 'sense of gender' thing, which to me feels extremely social. I'm not distressed at all.