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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I'm not into traditional womanness - I don't like cooking or getting married or a submissive lifestyle - but I'm not into progressive womanness either - a lot of progressive/liberal articles talking about the way women deal with the world is totally removed from my experience.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Even socially - I recently had a (liberal/feminist) woman read a list of my questions in front of me and then tell me, not knowing that I wrote them, "there is absolutely no way a woman wrote these. Only a man would ask stuff like this."
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I feel like there's no cached 'womanness' box that I fit into. I feel like an outlier in both liberal and conservative circles. This makes my relationship to my gender feel kinda funny - my 'woman' signalling doesn't meaningfully correlate with things in any group.
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notsofast
@notsofast
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@Aella_Girl
It's not helpful to a (gender) identity definition that the US political binary storms in and demands to be the biggest part of what informs it, by way of social groups whose communication converges on tribing up around the lowest common denominator of the lib vs con fight
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@Quuux
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@Aella_Girl
I think by now "gender" has become a bullshit term, meaning little close to nothing. Best course of action these days is to ignore that term, IMHO.
Dr. Poop Muscles, PhD
@Space_Boy_Ben
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@Aella_Girl
I feel similarly about my man-ness. I view myself as male but I've always been genderbending as far as my prefered dress and interests. I've never felt as if I fit in with the men (and have often been disincluded) but not with women either. Always a stranger in a strange land.
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lintilla
@lintilla
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@Aella_Girl
The majority of my "social" interaction happens online. Outside of camming I've always used the name Taylor precisely because it's unisex. Originally I was just sick of hearing about how "there are no girls on the internet", but my sex and gender are just so rarely (1/3)
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anthony
@PaperBooker
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@Aella_Girl
I think a lot of what you say about social grouping is true. But regardless, men and women ARE different - and a lot of this difference transcends social groups.
Elron Steele
@elron6900
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@Aella_Girl
At MOST gender is simply a "sub-category" of our humanity - we ARE fundamentally human, but we all have characteristics like hair colour, eye colour, and gender that make us individuals ... but fundamentally, gender is just another variation on humans ...
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I don't think this is quite right. I don't really care about womanness in general - I'm referring to some 'sense of gender' thing, which to me feels extremely social. I'm not distressed at all.