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I'm not into traditional womanness - I don't like cooking or getting married or a submissive lifestyle - but I'm not into progressive womanness either - a lot of progressive/liberal articles talking about the way women deal with the world is totally removed from my experience.

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Nov 17, 2018

Even socially - I recently had a (liberal/feminist) woman read a list of my questions in front of me and then tell me, not knowing that I wrote them, "there is absolutely no way a woman wrote these. Only a man would ask stuff like this."

Aella

@Aella_Girl

I feel like there's no cached 'womanness' box that I fit into. I feel like an outlier in both liberal and conservative circles. This makes my relationship to my gender feel kinda funny - my 'woman' signalling doesn't meaningfully correlate with things in any group.

12:21 AM · Nov 17, 2018

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I view gender as sort of a predictive thing determined by your social group - and so in the absence of a social group that has correct associations with my woman-presentation, I start to feel like I have no gender at all.

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Please, sing again!!

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Being an outlier in liberal and conservative circles is not a bad place to be these days. Can only hope that more people start to think for themselves.

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Yeah, it's a guy quoting another guy's nerd fiction about gender roles, but it's an excellent line and really what I strive to instill in my daughter:

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A quote from Words of Radiance

What is a woman's place in this modern world? Jasnah Kholin's words read. I rebel against this question, though so many of my peers ask it. The inherent ...