I'm not into traditional womanness - I don't like cooking or getting married or a submissive lifestyle - but I'm not into progressive womanness either - a lot of progressive/liberal articles talking about the way women deal with the world is totally removed from my experience.
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Even socially - I recently had a (liberal/feminist) woman read a list of my questions in front of me and then tell me, not knowing that I wrote them, "there is absolutely no way a woman wrote these. Only a man would ask stuff like this."
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I feel like there's no cached 'womanness' box that I fit into. I feel like an outlier in both liberal and conservative circles. This makes my relationship to my gender feel kinda funny - my 'woman' signalling doesn't meaningfully correlate with things in any group.
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I view gender as sort of a predictive thing determined by your social group - and so in the absence of a social group that has correct associations with my woman-presentation, I start to feel like I have no gender at all.
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I could be completely off base, but were you ever home schooled for a fair period of time? I feel like a lot social condioning comes from the trying to integrate positively into social groups formed when boys/girls which are informed by societies traditional views on gender norms
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If there must be a label, Tre libertarian. Be what you want to be. Make the box fit you rather than you fitting into a box.
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I absolutely love the way your mind works. Your viewpoint on so many topics makes me think, and I mean seriously think. Thank you for sharing your experience.
