Here's a thing I'd like some opinions on: What does the presence of questions (or lack thereof) mean about the interlocutors in a conversation?
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I remember a distinct time in my life when I really realized other people exist, that they generally enjoy sharing their universes, and that asking them questions is a great way to invite them to do that.
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Since then, I've taken a pattern of lack of questions from an interlocutor as evidence that they don't really care about my universe. (Note that I'm talking about non-Mara-life interlocutors- it makes sense for clients to avoid asking questions to be careful about boundaries.)
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Additionally, I mostly stopped talking about myself without prompting, because doing so seems that it might risk not giving others their fare share of conversational sharing.
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But I've recently come across a few people who care deeply about me, but who never ask me questions. They seem happy enough to listen if I talk about myself without prompting (something that's somewhat difficult for me,) but they won't do anything to draw me out.
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So, is there a segment of the population with different conversational norms, where, maybe, it's rude to ask questions, but one should always be ready to listen to what's freely offered?
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This seems like a great way to rarely have interesting conversations to me, but that might not be a bad thing for some people? I've noticed recently that my libido for conversational intensity is greater in magnitude and duration than your average bear.
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The real question: When people don't ask questions/draw me out, are they doing so with intentionality? If so, what is it?
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If they don't ask questions but seem to like when you talk, my first thought would be that they're trying not to be pushy or rude.