This is pretty much my position rn. What's frustrating is that (as the article @4th_WaveNow shared states) people read 'normative differences' & hear 'traits in mutually exclusive binary opposition with a culturally enforced hierarchy valuing one set of traits over the other'.
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Challenging the tacit hierarchy of traits & the notion they exist in mutually exclusive binary opposition is important political work; but to me it feels that the tradeoff has been denying those traits might have any basis in fact, & that denial has itself imposed costs on women.
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I'm interested in hearing more about the last part. What costs do you think this has imposed on women?
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#NotAllWomen obvs but for one thing I think internalising a pure social constructionist view of gender in the broadest sense can make the experience of becoming a mother way more difficult and conflicted.1 reply 0 retweets 1 like -
Replying to @moveincircles @katzen_frau and
For example there is solid neurological evidence that pregnancy & motherhood radically rewires a woman’s brain. If you’ve internalised a pure social-constructionist view of what it means to be a woman you’ve no frame of reference to help you account for that experience.
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Replying to @moveincircles @katzen_frau and
Maybe that sounds like nothing but the change can feel overwhelming and without a way of making sense of it well hello, post-natal depression. My friend teaches NCT and she says the ones who fervently insist that nothing will change post-baby nearly always get PND
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Replying to @moveincircles @katzen_frau and
Interesting. I have worked with endless high achieving women, who expect nothing will change and/or expect to be bored at home with baby. Most are significantly changed by the experience, and I have known some that have not wanted or refused to come back.
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Replying to @RealAdamB1 @moveincircles and
Most of them are pretty balanced people to begin with and quickly find a new normal. The only ones I see do it all are exceptionally gifted.
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Becoming a mother completely blew up the way I think about feminism, work, priorities, everything. Sure it doesn’t affect every mother like that but significant numbers, yes, and in a way that for me just doesn’t square with ‘sex roles are wholly socially constructed’.
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Yeah. When you've had your toddler in a politically correct daycare (where there is ZERO pressure to conform to stereotypes & all the moms are lefty-feminists) and watch MOST (not all!) the boys run to trucks and the girls having tea parties, you start realizing some stuff...
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